Divorce and Children Part
Every year, more than 1 million children in the United States experience the divorce of their parents. Children need the guidance, patience, and love of BOTH parents to help them through.
Put your child First:
- Never force your child to take sides.
- Do not involve your child in arguments.
- Discuss your concerns and feelings with your child’s other parent.
- Do not criticize each other in front of your child.
- Avoid fighting in front of your child Help your child adjust.
As a parent, there are many things you can do to help your child adjust to the changes in your family. Talk with your child early and often. The earlier you tell your child what is happening and the more often you talk, the more comfortable he will feel.
- Be completely honest and open about what is going to happen
- Make sure your child knows the divorce is NOT his fault
- Try not to blame your ex-spouse or show anger.
- Be patient with questions. You do not have all the answers, sometimes just carefully listening to your child is more helpful than talking.
Respect the relationship between your child and the other parent.
It is important to let your child show their love to both parents. Children should be allowed to spend time with their other parent without feeling guilty.
Keep your child’s daily routine.
Try to keep your child’s routine, friends, school, and environment as unchanged as possible. It is very important to live up to your promises to visit or spend time with your child.